i recently found out that someone i have grown very fond of (and care for very much) will no longer be in my life in the capacity they are now. this person is making some life decisions that will result in us no longer being in connection. the news put me in shock (so much so, i didn’t know i was in shock till later that night, when i began to thaw out). and boy did i cry. the tears have been pressing out of me a lot lately. i have been on the verge of sobbing for days on end. i think a part of me knew something was coming to an end. and i hate endings. i have always hated them (i think i am truly the worst person i know at letting go). but here is what has shifted in me (and something i think you may find useful as well). i have adopted a belief that i always return to, something that i have mentioned many times before (but was reminded of again recently). it’s a simple statement i ask myself over and over (till i am out of the panic): “how is this happening FOR me?” my usual place to go (where i went for 30 years of my life) was “why is this happening TO me.” the question makes all the difference in the world (our persistence makes all the difference in the world). don’t be content with not knowing. don’t allow yourself to go into “woe is me.” be fiercely curious and smartly surrendered. remember, nothing is about you (and it is all about you). so while i do not know how to easily let go, i do know how to re-frame (most anything). i have trained myself to sincerely see the gift in everything. i am a student of suffering. i am a servant to understanding. because the more i learn to see the beauty in the breaking, the less fear i feel and the more anxiety leaves me, because i know i can handle most anything. that doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting. that doesn’t mean this news didn’t hurt. but it also doesn’t mean something is wrong with me (or that the universe is punishing me). there is nothing i find more dis-empowering than victim mentality. and it is one of the things we truly have the ability to shift instantly. it isn’t necessarily easy, because so many of us have been taught differently. and it takes practice and care to begin to see the possibility in everything. but i can assure you, it can change everything. sometimes all we need is a slight swivel… and we are home.

❤ Emily Joy Rosen

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Emily Rosen is the co-owner and CEO of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating where she oversees business development strategies, student affairs, marketing and public relations, and keeps a pulse on the fields of eating psychology and nutrition to ensure the Institute’s position as a leader worldwide. Emily makes things happen. Her passion for health and transformation has provided her the opportunity to speak and present internationally and be at the forefront of a new generation of women leaders committed to making a heartfelt difference in the world. Her tireless work and faithful commitment have touched the lives of millions of fans and followers worldwide.