The act of eating can be a very intimate experience.

We love it, we desire it, taste it, we receive pleasure from it, we commune with it, we long for it, we get all excited when we have it, we might get a little afraid if it feels too good, we enjoy the feeling it gives us, and we literally consume it.

We take it inside us and swallow it. How’s that for intimacy?

Intimacy can profoundly fill us up.

So can food.

I meet a lot of people who have challenges with overeating, binge eating, emotional eating, appetite regulation, and other unwanted eating habits – and for some of them, at their core, is a desire for intimacy that’s been rerouted into the easiest available symbolic substitute – food.

On one level, there’s nothing wrong with this.

I’m not saying this is bad.

We’re human.

We’re not perfect.

Sometimes, we need some good symbolic substitutes. It keeps us going.

It helps us during the tough times. It can often bridge the gap.

The challenge happens when we rely too much on food as our source of intimacy.

So it’s a great question to ask yourself – if I have an eating challenge, how might it be connected to my experience or desire for intimacy?

Sometimes, we don’t fully own and acknowledge our deep desire for intimacy in our life.

We like to make the world think that we’re independent.

We want to show everyone we can do it alone.

We want to be self-sufficient.

All that is fine, except when it masks a deeper truth.

If intimacy is important for us, lets own it.

I think that far too many people make the mistake of getting stuck in the quick-fix solution.

Meaning, if I can have the depth and intimacy I want, then I might as well eat and forget about the rest.

Perhaps one of the first steps to truly attracting intimacy into our life is to first become more intimate with self.

One of the great ways to become more intimate with self is to do an honest inventory of who we are and what we truly want at the deepest level of our being.

When we touch that place, there’s a magic that’s instantaneously born.

And from there, so many good things are possible.

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Emily Rosen is the co-owner and CEO of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating where she oversees business development strategies, student affairs, marketing and public relations, and keeps a pulse on the fields of eating psychology and nutrition to ensure the Institute’s position as a leader worldwide. Emily makes things happen. Her passion for health and transformation has provided her the opportunity to speak and present internationally and be at the forefront of a new generation of women leaders committed to making a heartfelt difference in the world. Her tireless work and faithful commitment have touched the lives of millions of fans and followers worldwide.